The Top 10 Ways to Turn being Lonely into being Comfortably Alone

The Top 10 Ways to Turn being Lonely into being Comfortably Alone

Category: Life Skills (BL37)

Originally Submitted on 8/7/97.

If we think of being alone as being lonely, then fear of loneliness can drive us into the company of people who will not contribute at all to the quality of our lives. It is possible to turn loneliness into comfortable aloneness, so that when we socialize it is by choice, not because we are driven.

1. Enjoy the person you are. If you don't like yourself, then figure out why and start work on becoming a person you do enjoy. You can do it, and you'll be too busy to be lonely.

2. Arrange your surroundings so that they give you pleasure.

3. Choose a field you want to learn more about, set up some form of study of it. If you don't like/can't afford classes, check out the library, make yourself a reading list on your chosen topic, set yourself a schedule.

4. Make a list of people you haven't called/written to lately. Don't worry that they haven't contacted you either. Catch up.

5. Get yourself a dog, cat, bird, something that will respond to you.

6. Grow things - flowers, indoor plants, herbs on the window-ledge. Take care of them.

7. Volunteer. You are needed somewhere, and will be emotionally repaid a hundredfold.

8. Visit your chosen place of worship, wherever and whatever it may be.

9. Put yourself among natural things. If you live in the city, visit a safe park, conservatory, zoo, even a florist's shop.

10. Celebrate the fact that you can choose your own schedule, do your own thing. It is a luxury many people pray for every day, and have no prospect of ever getting.

About the Submitter

This piece was originally submitted by Diana Robinson, PhD., CASAC, Personal Life Coach, Writer, Editor, Counselor, who can be reached at Diana@choicecoach.com, or visited on the web. Diana Robinson wants you to know: As a Professional Life Coach I welcome the chance to work with people seeking to reconnect with their own strengths and their own authenticity, people who are seeking balance in their lives, and to whom inner, as well as outer, success is important. I offer a half-hour complimentary coaching call and a free twice-monthly e-mail newsletter. For more information see my web site. The original source is: Myself.

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