Distinction: Love Vs. Lust
Category: Effectiveness Skills, Results (AG207)Originally Submitted on 7/8/2000.
Definitions
Love - is the unconditional acceptance of all things as they are.
To alter or expand them by contributing to them in a loving way
creates blessings. To alter, judge or limit them by force or fear
creates burdens which you must carry, experience or learn from.Lust - is wanting something that you can't have, taking something
that isn't yours, (through acquisition, force, coercion or manipulation),
and believing in something that isn't loving, (like domination, control
or sacrifice).
Comparisons
unconditional acceptance vs. wanting
contribution vs. manipulation
blessings vs. suffering
Example
Two prospective clients contact you. One inspires and energizes you. You take them on with joy. The other has some issues that you're not really comfortable dealing with. You take them on, in spite of your discomfort, after all, you have a practice to fill.
Key Point
When you love someone or something, there's a natural fit that fully utilizes your gifts and passions.
When you're lusting after someone or something, it exposes a need, a wanting, as it's not a perfect fit for you.
Use this distinction when you're making choices...do you want it because you absolutely love it, or do you want it because you want it?
Benefits
Choosing well will become effortless, and you'll love your choices.
About the Submitter
This piece was originally submitted by Rosemary Davies-Janes, Mind-Body-Soul & Branding/Marketing Coach, who can be reached at Rosemary@MibosoCoach.com, or visited on the web. Rosemary Davies-Janes wants you to know: I work with individuals and organizations; distilling their essence to create unique and distinctive brands that attract and sell. The original source is: Donna Hamilton.
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