The Top 10 Alternatives to Divorce Recovery

Originally Submitted on 7/13/2000.

This is not to put down any other path, yet to offer a different path that may ring true to some.

1. Treat your marriage like a covenant, not a contract.

In the Bible, it says God was a witness at the covenant of your marriage. Contract is based on performance. Covenant is based on promise. To a christian, all God's promises to you are based on covenant, His integrity that He will do what He said He will do.

2. Think of the breakup as your GROW time.

Never will you be more attentive to life. To the christian, this is more about you and God than it is you and your mate.

3. Learn there are but a few things important.

And other "stuff" gets in the way.

4. Anyone can believe that the possibilities of getting back together are dead.

To see the impossible, believe the impossible.

5. Learn the value of 'standing.'

If your child went AWOL on drugs or whatever, you wouldn't give up on them. Why do it to a one-flesh mate?

6. Deep healing comes from clean forgiveness.

This comes from transferring the hurt to Him and allowing a deep work to be done in you.

7. Learn not to uncover your mate: in thought or word.

When you do, a piece of your integrity falls off.

8. Begin enjoying life as it was intended. Appreciating the present.

Don't focus on your mate, that is God's job. Focus on your growth, where there is awesome potential.

9. Honor God in everything you do.

From the small to the big, the insignificant to the important.

10. Remember how valuable you are.

No one on earth can take your place.

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