The Top 10 Ways to Avoid Getting into a Relationship Doomed to Fail
Category: Relationships, Relating, Couples (BB166)Originally Submitted on 5/24/98.
Both men and women do much the same things when they are trying to meet their needs relationships-wise. These are ten of the most common things men and women do when they are searching for love or for a relationship where they want to be loved. In each case, it will inevitably *NOT* meet their needs:
1. Forcing your desire for a relationship onto the other person, and because the other person doesn't know how to say "no," they stay with you.
2. Everything about the other person tells your head and "gut" they are NOT the one, but you ignore your intuition and mind and go ahead anyhow.
3. You mix up someone being nice or friendly with you with romance.
4. You fear or hate being alone, so you latch onto the first person who comes by and is available.
5. You look only at the person's looks and outside "package" and do not investigate or pay attention to what they are really like as a *person*.
6. Even though you know this person has done bad things to other people in past relationships, you choose to believe that he/she will not do the same to you.
7. You mistake your great sexual adventures and fun with this person for love.
8. You are in a relationship, but you don't express your feelings and needs to your partner for fear you will hurt their feelings or make them angry.
9. You know your partner is deceiving you but you refuse to believe it, even though you know the truth. You stay in denial about it all.
10. The other person shows a lot of interest in you and you respond quickly and passionately, without really finding out if this person is who or what you really want in a relationship partner.
About the Submitter
This piece was originally submitted by Dennis R. Tesdell, Personal Development &, Personal Development & Business Coach, who can be reached at lifecoach@coachdt.com, or visited on the web. Dennis R. Tesdell wants you to know: I am a coach affiliated with Coach University who coaches people on self-care issues, relationships being a part of that general category. I am a member of the International Coach Federation and also teach monthly workshops on Self Care related issues through Coach University's "Tele University.".
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