The Top 10 Ways to evolve to attract or create your ideal relationship

Originally Submitted on 5/6/2000.

The following are ten personal development steps you can take to evolve now to attract or create your ideal relationship.

These 10 key steps were developed in response to the most frequently asked questions in a Teleclass on how to attract your ideal relationship.

You will find a request or a challenge at the end of each of the following steps. The challenge gives you one specific action step. Take it - you will reap great benefits!

For your free copy of the How To Attract Your Ideal Relationship(TM) Questionnaire, e-mail relationship coach Rinatta Paries at coach@WhatItTakes.com or visit http://www.WhatItTakes.com.

1. The first step in breaking a relationship pattern is to complete with your past.

When you no longer have feelings about your past relationships and your childhood, you are emotionally free to be in your ideal relationship. This helps you to:

* recognize partners that are incompatible with you before you get involved,

* naturally attract better suited partners,

* stop trying to resolve old relationships in the current one,

* transform all of your relationships to be clear and satisfying.

My request to you is to complete your past now.

2. In order to be fulfilled in any relationship you need to be able to ask for what you want.

It is a myth that people should know what you want.

When you are able to ask for what you want, you become easier to be with, easier to delight, and much more attractive. People see you as clear and straightforward.

I encourage you to immediately learn how to ask for want you want in all relationships.

3. The more you want a relationship, have a laundry list and a timetable for when it should occur, the less likely you are to have it.

The only way to attract a fulfilling relationship is to have a fulfilling life. You get to have a fulfilling life with or without a partner, while becoming naturally attractive. When you are attractive in this way, you no longer need to look for a relationship - you will attract it.

I challenge you to create a fulfilling life in every way.

4. You will not be able to attract your ideal partner by knowing what men/women want in a relationship and trying to provide it.

If you know what you want and what you can give in a relationship you will connect with a partner who is a natural fit for you.

Look deeply inside yourself and find out what you want in a relationship and what you can give.

5. There are three questions to ask yourself to discern if your current relationship is your ideal relationship.

Can you talk to your partner honestly and openly about your feelings, needs and wants and can he or she hear you and respond? Can the two of you make relationship course corrections when necessary? Do the two of you have more communication and problem solving than drama? If the answers to these are "yes," there is good chance you are in your ideal relationship.

If "no," I urge you to step up communication and turn it into your ideal relationship.

6. One key to knowing you are making a poor choice in a partner or a friend is when the other person seems to adore you from the get go.

He or she hardly knows you and yet everything suddenly revolves around you. You need to know that his or her behavior is more about the need to be connected to someone than it is about you personally. A relationship such as this will cool of within a short period of time. You will be left feeling the urge to chase the person to continue to get the same amount of attention.

Take it very slow in a beginning of any relationship, even if your new partner is pushing to speed it up.

7. People choose mates based on a pattern created in their childhood.

Relationship choices are always based on our parents' relationship. If our parents' relationship did not work well, we are stuck with painful relationship patterns. The only way out is to take apart our parents' relationship to see how it influences our choices. We need to consciously choose what works for us and what doesn't.

Look at your parents' relationship to see how it parallels your relationship history. Then make a conscious choice about how you want to create your relationships.

8. It does not matter if there are many available partners where you live and work or none.

All you want is to attract one partner. Whether you are able to attract a partner or not depends on how well you have dealt with what you think about relationships.

If you want to attract your ideal partner, look inside yourself and find out what beliefs stop you from allowing a relationship into your life.

9. You must clearly know what you want in a relationship in order to create it.

First, discover what kind of interaction you want to have with your partner. Then ask yourself what kind of a person would be suited to naturally engage in that kind of interaction. You will arrive at a clear description of your ideal partner and make it easy to attract him or her.

Create a list of the kind of interactions you want in a relationship and derive your list of ideal partner qualities now.

10. Here is a simple recipe for attracting your ideal partner:

*Get complete with your past (see step #1).

*Create a list of ideal partner qualities (see step #9).

*Ask yourself if you feel any other blocks inside of you to having a relationship. Clear them out of the way completely.

As a result of these three steps, you will attract your ideal relationship. These are the only steps you need to take, and the only steps that consistently work in life for creating relationships as well as anything you may want.

If you want to attract your ideal relationship, I urge you to get started now on these three steps.

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