The Top 10 Principles of Being a Love Magnet(TM), Part III

Originally Submitted on 2/5/2001.

This is the final article of a three-part series on the principles of attracting love easily. If love is what you are after, these principles, when incorporated into your life, will deliver just that.

Working Definition: Love magnet -- a single person able to attract the right partner effortlessly and able to form a gratifying, long-term relationship. Also, a person in a relationship who is able to attract his or her partner's love and affection effortlessly.

Attracting and getting love can be easy, effortless. Really. You can become the kind of person who has a particular kind of an aura, a particular kind of a light that draws love to you. The more light you have, the easier love comes to you. You can become a love magnet.

The first 20 principles of being a love magnet are:

1. Take care of you, first.
2. Set strong boundaries.
3. Complete your past.
4. Stop being angry.
5. Make integrity a priority.
6. Step over nothing.
7. Be fearless.
8. Be generous and kind, with no strings.
9. Have compassion.
10. Be grateful.
11. Say "No" a lot.
12. Trust yourself.
13. Value yourself highly.
14. Be everything you want.
15. Express yourself.
16. Live your best life.
17. Shine, from the inside.
18. Open your heart.
19. Learn to listen.
20. Learn to communicate.

Here are the final 10 principles of being a love magnet. By embodying these, becoming these, you will attract the love you want, effortlessly.

Are you a True Love Magnet? To find out, take the True Love Magnet (TM) Quiz at www.WhatItTakes.com by clicking on the "Relationship Quizzes" link found at the top of the page.

1. Ask for what you want.

Ask for what you want, again and again and again, in every area of your life. Every time you ask for what you want you give yourself and others the message that you matter, are valuable and worth caring for. Soon you will begin to feel valuable. And when you feel valuable, you are attractive.

2. Appreciate and acknowledge.

Seeing the best in others brings out their best. You become a very attractive person when you appreciate and acknowledge others, because you bring the best out in people.

3. Surrender control.

Learn to flow with life. Learn to like difference, change, spontaneity and risk. The more you can flow, the more free you will feel. And feeling free will make you shine.

4. Welcome interdependence.

Independence is overvalued--and it renders you unable to truly connect with another human being. To love someone is to depend on that person. Yes, it is a risk. But without taking that risk, you will never know love.

5. Get everything you want.

Go for everything you want in life and don't let fear stop you. Your persistent desires call you to your true self. The more you follow that call, the more genuine, self-expressed and authentic you are. And the more authentic you are, the more you stand out, the more you attract.

6. Never settle.

Never settle, especially in a relationship. This does not mean you have to find the "perfect" man or woman. It means you become willing to honor your wants and needs. Honor them to the extent that having them met becomes a condition for having a relationship. And be willing to let go of a relationship when your most important needs have no hope of being met.

7. Contribute to others.

Make a difference in the world--feed your soul and your humanity. That ignites an unmistakably attractive light.

8. Get involved.

Expand your community, not simply to meet a mate but to be connected, to participate, to belong. As a bonus, you will probably meet your ideal mate this way.

9. Grow yourself.

Develop your capacity for introspection, for feelings, for creativity and spontaneity, for love, for trust. The more you grow yourself the more you will know about attracting and building a relationship to last a lifetime.

10. Live in the present.

Some people never take action because they are afraid or unsure about the outcome. Some live in their dreams of the future, but neglect to take steps towards that future, leaving it unborn. The only way to have a life you love and a relationship you adore is to live in the present, remembering everything you do or don't do now impacts your future.

This article was originally published by Coach Rinatta Paries in "The Relationship Coach Newsletter," a weekly e-zine for people who want fulfilling relationships. For singles, the newsletter will help you attract your Mr. or Ms. Right. If you're in a relationship, you will learn to create more closeness and intimacy with your mate. To subscribe, go to http://www.WhatItTakes.com

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