The Top 10 ways to improve or find a love relationship!

Originally Submitted on 1/16/2002.

1. Say "I love you" at least once a day

- try saying it to yourself in the mirror, or to the cat, the plant on your desk, or even your partner. Practice makes perfect!

2. Start acting the way you wish things were

- if you have a partner, do you wish you had more time together, said loving things to each other, and went for long walks at the weekend? If you don't have a partner, would you behave differently if you did? Would you spend more time doing things you love? Would you treat yourself better? Well, here is the thing - just do it.

3. Tell people what you want

- do you want you partner to treat you differently? Tell you he/she loves you? Are you looking for a partner? Tell people! Hide your blushes or awkwardness and just ask nicely. Say, I'm looking for a new partner! Or I'd like you to tell me you love me more often!

4. Give your time to the ones you love

- If you work from home, you probably give a lot of time to other people. It is easy to get overwhelmed with the responsibilities of life or work, and neglecting those you love, or neglect giving time to building relationships. Actions speak louder than words. It is important to reflect on the message you are sending those around you about their place in your life.

5. Don't be right all the time

- yes, it is nice when you are right. Even the smallest things feel like a triumph. But here is a way for everyone to win. Allow someone else to be right! Imagine how good your partner, or potential partner (!) will feel when you allow them the momentary glory of being right. This is the first step to honouring the relationship you have or are building.

6. Give heartfelt gifts

- a handwritten note, a flower picked from the garden…..anything that is from YOU given with love will make the other person's smile.

7. Remember the good times

- everyone has times when things don't feel perfect. So when curl up with a bottle of wine (and if you have one, your partner!) and reflect on the good times. Look at photos of when you were younger, fitter, in love. At the very least you'll have a good laugh. At best, you'll remember why you first fell in love and remember how to do it again.

8. Listen

- next time you are with someone you love, or would like to be a bigger part of your life, just listen to them. Think about the last time you were really listened to and the impact this had on you. What a great thing to do for someone.

9. Make a date

- with your partner or with someone you'd like to have a date with. I dare you. Put the date on your calendar now, and then go and ask them. What have you got to lose?

10. Have fun

- get out the Frisbee, the pogo stick and the space hopper! Have fun.

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