Distinction: Love Vs. Neediness

Originally Submitted on 5/3/97.

Definitions

Love - a warm affection for a person

Neediness - a state of requiring something

Comparisons

optional vs. mandatory

Example

Joel needed Sue to make himself feel attractive and valuable. Rena loved Adam because of the joy he added to her already satisfying life.

Key Point

Love occurs without effort, without a spoken commitment, and without need. When someone's foundation is weak, he turns to someone else for strength and calls it love. The strong pull of need nearly precludes the possibility of love. Love is a gift. If affection is required or required, it's no longer love but a need.

Benefits

You are more free to express and experience love when your needs are taken care of.

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