Distinction: Love Vs. Attending to
Category: More Distinctions: A superb coaching tool (CY214)Originally Submitted on 9/1/2000.
Definitions
Love - The sovereign preference of myself for that of another. (O.Chambers)Attending to - Focusing on and paying attention to another.
Comparisons
A high level of devotion to another vs. A high level of involvement with another
Focused on another as a person vs. Focused on what you are doing with another
A reality rooted in a feeling for another vs. An experience of the other
Example
Todd listened to his clients with such focus and attention that they felt loved. His ability to listen intuitively and empathetically hear them enabled him to further their plans, hopes and goals beyond anything they had imagined.
Key Point
When one pays close and regular attention to another it becomes difficult to separate from love for that person. In fact the one receiving the attention will almost without fail recognize it as love.
Related distinctions
Love vs. Listen
Listening with vs. Listening for
Dream vs. Illusion
About the Submitter
This piece was originally submitted by Charles Powell, Professional Business Coach, who can be reached at coach@coach-charles.com. Charles Powell wants you to know: he is especially skilled at assisting clients in learning language that makes a difference in their success.
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